September

After a number of false starts, I am going to make this a calendar month without porn.

It's also, with my wife's pregnancy into its final few weeks, a good opportunity to build on the last 19 days without sexual activity, so I will be aiming for a MB-free month too.

The plan is much the same as it always has been:

• Staying away from all porn and other sources of temptation.
• Not indulging in MB, sexual fantasy, or any remotely sexual activities without my wife, who is unlikely to be interested.
• Cutting back my online time to three sessions a day (for e-mailing, blogging and visiting the support board) unless specifically required for work.
• Getting the hell away from the PC during my lunch break when working at home. This will probably entail physically leaving the house, which can't be a bad side effect anyway.
• My reward system of £1 a day is up to £19 now; at the end of the month I'll treat myself to a DAB radio. (My pesky wife having treated me to the remaining Buffy/Angel DVDs...)
• Continuing to explore the causes of my addiction.

As well as all this, I am going to increase my chances of success, I hope, by trying not to think of it in terms of 'avoiding porn', but rather to fill the gap porn has been occupying with more positive things. Especially, my relationship with God, which, to be 'real', will preclude porn use by default. So, in no particular order, I intend to:

• Get my prayer life back on track.
• Write something.
• Read - the Bible, and some quality fiction.
• Spend more quality time with my wife.

Deja vu? Again?