Disturbing poll

According to this poll by Amnesty International, one third of people in the UK think women who flirt are partially to blame if they are raped, and a quarter of people think they are partially or totally responsible if they were wearing 'sexy or revealing clothing'.

That's scary. I mean, as a sex addict, I've recognised that kind of thought process in myself. I like to think I have the self-control, not to mention morals, not to act on such thoughts - I certainly never have acted on them - but I'm aware that they have started to form in my mind. So who's to blame: a young woman, for wanting to look sexy on a night out, or me, for being a screwed up little pervert? Surely that's a no-brainer?

It gets worse: eight per cent believed that a woman was totally responsible for being raped if she’d had many sexual partners. Totally responsible? A woman who likes sex is asking to be raped.

Similarly, a woman who's had a few too many, or simply 'failed to clearly say no' is partially or totally to blame for being raped.

There are some pretty screwed up findings in that report. I really hope it wasn't a true reflection of the culture I live in, but like I said... I've had the same thoughts myself. I just happen to recognise them for what they are: lies put forward by my inner lust monster.

Now I don't agree with any of those statements.

But if, for the sake of argument, we say that a woman, for any of the reasons given, is 'asking for it', we surely can't neglect the fact that it takes a certain kind of man to answer them.

I believe that porn is responsible for creating men like that.

And I thank God that I saw what I could have become long before it happened.


Wednessday: Even stupider - repeated yesterday's mistakes. Don't get sucked in!